In honor of International Women’s Day, I am wearing red today to support the women’s rights movement. The color is to represent revolutionary love and sacrifice.
Today I started out with a bit of pin-up style, but instead of wearing this tee and cardigan by Lane Bryant with my favorite cigarette pant, I paired it with my red plaid leggings by Torrid. I wanted those leggings forever too. However, I did not want to pay full price as I never like to pay full price for anything. I got them for $8 on clearance. The boots are Lane Bryant as well and a pair of favorites! I purchased them four years ago. They still look great!
This outfit contains personal significance as to why I chose to wear it this day. I was planning on wearing red, but I do not as a rule wear a tee like that with leggings. However, something happened yesterday that made me think that maybe I should do this anyways.
Yesterday, I went to the post office dressed in leggings and a baggy tee. I stood in line behind a man who kept turning around to leer at me…specifically my crotch area. Then he would look up at my face to which I would give him the death stare and back down to my crotch again. I did not appreciate the staring. I did not find it flattering. I found his behavior lewd and disgusting. He made me very uncomfortable to the point that I was actually nervous leaving the building, and I cried once I got home. Women do not ask to be treated like pieces of meat by what we wear. For goodness sake, I was wearing a baggy shirt, and my leggings were not skin-tight. It did not give him the right to make me feel uncomfortable.
I wore what I did like I did if only to prove that point to myself. I love this outfit. I am not going to be shamed to not wear it. If some guy thinks it gives him the right to make me feel dirty, that guy needs to check himself.
I hate hearing how women are “asking for it” when they wear something that some guy seems as provocative. No. We are not asking for it. Our bodies are our bodies. Period.I am teaching that to my daughters. I am teaching that to my son. It makes me sad that society still downplays this to a point that men still feel it is okay to be a leering asshole. Growing up, I was always taught we had to have respect for men, if a boy hit me or treated me bad that it meant he liked me, that when a boy touched me in my private parts in gym class that he just did not know any better. He fucking knew better. They all do. I will not be teaching that crap to my kids because I do not want my son to grow up being like that man I met yesterday. I do not want my girls thinking that men can control them or that they need to act or dress a certain way because of men.
I want better for all women.
Have you ever worn something to prove a point? If so, feel free to tell me your story in the comments below.