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While the temptation is always there to purge my wardrobe and start fresh every season when I see all sorts of cute outfits, I look at my bank account and my current goals and put the debit card away. That doesn’t mean that I give up though!!! I usually get a few new staples or must haves for the season, but I love finding new ways to make what I have work.
I have been noticing all the cute pairings with bulky cardigans, and I remembered that I still had this one that I got from DEB right before they closed their doors and sold their online portion to someone new. When I saw it, I had to have it, but it has sat in the closet forever because I didn’t know exactly how to wear it.
Sometimes I like to go to Pinterest and try to get ideas that way. However, most of the stuff I find there all comes from non-plus size bloggers. There is a big black hole when it comes to plus size fashion on Pinterest, almost like it doesn’t exist. I recently signed up for Tailwind for Prissy Missy Loves and got to the part where I am looking for Tribes to join. For those of you who don’t know about Tailwind, it is a scheduling tool for bloggers and social media savvy types. They have a feature called “tribes” that puts you with like-minded niches to find more material to pin. It’s kinda cool. I have seen growth since starting to use it. However, now that I am looking for tribes in which to connect, I am coming up pretty empty.
It is as if they don’t even know what to do with plus size people. My suggestions never feature plus size girls. They feature straight sized girls or diet posts. When I look up tribes, I get more of the same. It is not only frustrating but also a little bit sad. This is 2018!!! Plus Size people are everywhere!!! Why is it still so hard to find our place in social media?
I remember when I thought about doing something on the body positive side about 10 years ago. I knew almost nothing about social media. I was trying to figure out blogging…don’t even go searching for those blogs because they sucked so bad that I got rid of them. I ended up giving up because I didn’t know what I was doing. Starting this blog after having years of experience and success with my parenting blog, I thought it would be easier to grow, but I am finding more and more that the moment you mention the words “Plus Size,” you get sorta pushed off into a corner. It is so much harder for plus size bloggers to grow. It is harder to build an Instagram following. Other fashion bloggers don’t know what to do with us, and some of the same tools they use to push the clothes they wear are harder, if not impossible for gaining acceptance as a plus sized person.
That brings me back to Pinterest. I thought it might be a good idea because I know a few other lifestyle bloggers that use it to promote fashion. Plus, I have seen an upswing in traffic on my other blog since I started using it there. However, I guess having big boobs, talking about plus size issues, and wearing plus size fashion is just not relevant there.
It sucks really. I find myself using the sex symbol part of my plus size modeling adventures to work elsewhere on social media to bring my stats up so that my target audience sees my posts more. It totally works, but it still kinda sucks. I keep trying to do things with other local blogger groups, but I sometimes feel like the odd one out. I find myself not attending some of the things in which I get invited because they are totally marketed to women smaller than me, and it just feels awkward.
I hate that in 2018, we are still at a point where we are being told that no one wants to hear from us unless we fit into a mold. I do not have anything against my skinny sisters, but I want the same representation. I don’t want to have to change who I am just to be able to tell my story. I feel my story needs to be told. I feel there is a place for us all, and I feel that we all deserve to feel beautiful, regardless of size.
Until we get to that point, I am going to keep working to do the things I want to do: promote body love and acceptance…and show off plus size fashion, pin-up, and ways to look good while being thrifty.
The outfit I am showcasing today is definitely a thrifty one! The purse is new. I got it online at Just Fab. The shirt is new as well. I got it on clearance from Lane Bryant, but the rest of it is all 3-4 years old. Mixing the dark colors with more neutrals provides a great fall/winter look. You could easily switch the cardigan for a moto jacket to stay a little warmer.