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How to Have a Happy Plus Size Pregnancy: What You Need To Know

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Being plus size and pregnant comes with a certain stigma to it, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy your pregnancy. Since I went through most of my pregnancies as a plus size person, I want to share how to have a happy plus size pregnancy, including health, with tips on health,  how to shop for plus size maternity wear, and other useful bits I learned along the way.

how to have a happy plus size pregnancy: a guide complete with tips on health and even how to shop for plus size maternity wear

 

Where to Start in Your Plus Size Pregnancy Journey

The best place to start is with a good doctor. Whether you are planning a pregnancy or end up pregnant as a surprise, you definitely want a good ob/gyn. By good ob/gyn, I mean one that goes with facts but doesn’t fat shame you in the process.

There are many people that act like a plus size pregnancy is something taboo without knowing someone’s history in the first place. Honestly, that is really something that should be discussed between you and and your doctors, not a random troll on the internet. But…I digress.

how to have a happy plus size pregnancy: a guide complete with tips on health and even how to shop for plus size maternity wear

 

Why I stress a good OB/GYN

When I was pregnant with my second child, we just moved into a new area. I was unfamiliar with the doctors. It was 15 years ago, and finding out reviews wasn’t quite as easy online as it is today. With social media, it is a lot easier to find a local parenting group and ask these kinds of questions or search Google for a review.

My family doctor was almost an hour away and said she would be more comfortable with me finding someone closer. I couldn’t get a lot of information on the local obgyns in the area, so I went with the one that was closest to me. It was a big mistake!

My Experience

To make a long story short, the doctor shamed me with every visit. His only concern was my weight and told me I should consider losing up to 20 lbs while pregnant. Having a history of bulimia really started to play into how I was handling my pregnancy. After he tried pushing me into an unnecessary amnio, I started asking some of the moms I met in the area about the practice and switched to a different one half way through my pregnancy. They didn’t try to pressure me into any unnecessary procedures, and mentally it was so much better for me to be somewhere where I could enjoy my pregnancy without focusing on weight.

how to have a happy plus size pregnancy: a guide complete with tips on health and even how to shop for plus size maternity wear

 

Don’t Settle for a Fat-Phobic Doctor

Settling for a doctor that is only concerned with your weight is mentally taxing. Also, you may be pushed into things based on your weight alone, such as an unnecessary c-section. If you have to have a c-section, there is no shame in that. However, you should never be forced into one based on your size.

 

Nutrition and Health for a Plus Size Pregnancy

Most likely, you will not gain as much weight as your straight sized friend who is pregnant. According to the CDC, someone who is overweight should aim to gain 15 to 25 pounds. Those with obesity should gain 11 to 20 pounds. In my experience, I have been within the 10 lb range for my daughters. As it stands now, with me in my second trimester, I probably will be within that range again.

My doctor has been fine with my progress with each of those pregnancies. I focused, especially in these last two, on nutrition. It is not to say that I don’t indulge now and then. However, I focus heavily on a wide variety of foods and getting my unborn child the nutrition they need. I also heavily researched my vitamins and supplements. This has been especially important this pregnancy as I was diagnosed with some food allergies a few years back. I cannot eat gluten, dairy, or soy. I made sure to ask my doctor about supplements and anything I might need to know.

While you may be more prone to developing gestational diabetes, a good diet, combined with movement helps combat that. So far, I never developed gestational diabetes in any of my pregnancies. My doctor this time around seemed a bit shocked by that, considering I had three 8lb plus babies. However, I stayed active and ate well. I focused on that instead of what could happen. In the event you develop gestational diabetes, it isn’t the end of the world. Just take care of yourself and do what you need to do to get to the end.

how to have a happy plus size pregnancy: a guide complete with tips on health and even how to shop for plus size maternity wear

 

Plus Size Maternity Wear and How to Shop for it

If you don’t know where to start, finding cute plus size pregnancy clothes seems a bit daunting. However, if you know how to shop, you can find the cutest things to dress that bump!

In previous pregnancies, I shopped Motherhood Maternity first. However, since they no longer have physical stores, the selection is spotty at best.

how to have a happy plus size pregnancy: a guide complete with tips on health and even how to shop for plus size maternity wear

 

Favorite Places for Plus Size Maternity Clothes

One of the biggest issues I ran into this time around was thinking about the fit. So, here is the approach I took:

I went with stores I trusted with sizing. Torrid has been rolling out its own maternity line slowly. I know my size in Torrid leggings, so I went with my regular size for their maternity bike shorts. They are super comfy and one of my faves. As for tops, their babydoll tops are super cute. I wear my regular size or one size up in those currently. Also, their skater dresses are great for pregnancy as well!

I also like to shop smaller brands and boutiques. For my latest maternity shoot, I chose a jumpsuit from Voluptuous Lady Boutique. They have a lot of cute things with stretch, and they are a great plus size boutique to shop trendy fashion. I sized up one size with them, and it was perfect.

Also, I reached out to the owner of Love Thy Curves, who is also a friend of mine. Love Thy Curves specializes in plus size consignment clothing. If you are looking for plus size pregnancy clothing on a budget, this is a great place to start! They are local to me, but they have an online presence as well! I told her what I was looking for. So she and I did a style session over Facebook one day helping me get the rest of my summer pregnancy wardrobe!

I also recommend checking out Etsy. I found some cute plus size pregnancy tees and even the cutest punk skirt on there. You can also find some cute skater dresses by CowCow that work great, especially for the summer. They are super stretchy too. I sized up in the ones I got to wear for the summer, and they have been a great fit!

how to have a happy plus size pregnancy: a guide complete with tips on what to know as a plus size pregnant person.

Above All, Do Things To Enjoy Your Pregnancy

Pregnancy can be a stressful time no matter what you do. As I write this, we are still in the midst of a pandemic, and I admit that it is a little hard to enjoy myself a lot of the time. If you are struggling mentally during your pregnancy, do things to help take care of yourself…whether that is practicing good self-care, turning off social media for a bit, or even going to therapy.

Some of the things I have been doing lately to help me enjoy my pregnancy have been talking to my baby. I sit, rub my belly, and talk to him. Also, I have been taking lots of pictures. Even if you are self-conscious, remember to take photos of this time. It is something I regret not doing with my first two pregnancies. With the first one I lost, it is one of the few things I have to remember him by. Pregnancy can leave you feeling less than confident about yourself as your body changes, but you are beautiful. Working on embracing yourself helps you mentally during this time!

Final Thoughts

I hope you found these tips helpful. Being pregnant can be an exciting time, but it can be a nerve-wracking time as well. If you enjoyed this post, be sure to follow for more fashion fun and check me out on social media for fashion tips, body positivity, and random stories and fun!

Photos by CW Photography from my second trimester photo shoot. Outfit by Voluptuous Lady Boutique. 

 

how to have a happy plus size pregnancy: a guide complete with tips on health and even how to shop for plus size maternity wear

 

7 Comments

7 Comments

  1. Dana Rodriguez
    July 17, 2020 at 5:25 pm

    You look great. These are wonderful tips!

  2. Barrie
    July 18, 2020 at 6:25 am

    I am so sorry that you initially had a rough time finding a good doctor! Being pregnant should be a wonderful experience! Glad you found someone else and that it all went well. This article has great information for plus-size pregnant mamas.

  3. Amber Kolb
    July 19, 2020 at 2:16 am

    Thank you for the information. I just found out that I’m pregnant and my husband and I are so excited. I’m 39 and this is our first baby. I started working on losing weight before I got pregnant and I’m down to 169. I really need to find a good doctor. You look amazing!

    • Prissy Missy Doll
      July 19, 2020 at 5:52 pm

      Congratualtions and wishing you the best on your pregnancy! I lost weight before getting pregnant this time, but in my case my weight loss wasn’t as intentional. Because of my food allergies, I have been slowly losing weight over the last two years. I wanted to talk about my experiences because I hope that it will help others since it can be very overwhelming at times

  4. monique s
    July 21, 2020 at 9:55 am

    great info thank you

  5. Tara L
    August 4, 2020 at 3:35 pm

    It’s funny you mention this because I recently went to my check up examine for my Gyno and they told me to loose weight so I don’t have any complications for my pregnancy like I have girl friends that are big and curvy and they had a baby just fine. It makes me angry like it’s my body I’ll do what I please, thank you!

    • Prissy Missy Doll
      August 4, 2020 at 4:58 pm

      This is one thing I hate. Plus Size people can have healthy pregnancies, and there are many doctors that don’t get hung up on weight and focus on the mom and the baby’s development. What sucks about a fat phobic doctor is that they end up sometimes missing something important by being focused on weight. After I wrote this article, I ended up having an awful experience with my obgyn where she wanted me to do something that could put my health at risk because of fatphobia. While I don’t like the idea of changing drs for my third trimester, I did just that and am starting my last trimester with a completely different dr because of it.

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