How to Slay the Holidays (when you don’t feel like it)
Considering that this year has been one long roller coaster ride, I shouldn’t have been surprised that I ended up in the ER at the beginning of December with symptoms of a seizure. While perusing social media the last few days, it seems that 2018 came with the determination to take a lot of us out. If you are one of those people, let me be the first to remind you that we are in the home stretch now. I kinda want to have a bonfire when this year is over to signify my feelings towards this past year.
While this year brought me a lot of answers as to what is going on with me health wise, mentally, it has been pretty exhausting. Not having energy created hardship not only for me, but for my family as well. I thought by now, I would be a lot healthier than I am. I also thought my days of fatphobic doctors were through, but autumn came with a few new ones to prove me wrong. One of them even had the nerve to say that all my problems were caused by my breast size. I should mention that she didn’t have a clue as to why I was there and never bothered to look at my chart. Good times.
So now the holiday season is in full swing, and I am feeling a little battered and weary. However, I decided I am not giving up yet. I will not let 2018 beat me. Nope, I am gonna have a holly jolly Christmas no matter what! That being said, I came up with a few rules for myself, and I want to share them with you so that you can slay the holidays with me!
Lower Your Expectations
Let’s face it, many of us go into this season with exceedingly high expectations. You make all these plans, and you want things to go right. However, nothing is perfect. Some of your plans will not go the way they should, some people will let you down, and some of your ideas just aren’t gonna happen realistically. Don’t expect so much. Don’t stress about everything. Just enjoy.
Take your time
One of the biggest stressors for me is being out in public with people that are in such a hurry that they do stupid or dangerous things, especially while driving. Nothing is worth losing your life or putting someone else’s life in danger. Try to leave early when possible. Recognize that the roads are more congested this time of year. Shopping will take longer. You are probably gonna be late at some point. Take your time. It will help you stay less stressed, and it makes it easier to deal with people and stay alert for those who don’t pay attention.
When it comes to Facebook, I am the queen of being “interested.” For me, I want to do things, but I still don’t know how I am gonna feel when I wake up in the morning. I do actually commit to some things, but I try to make sure I don’t schedule too much in my week anymore. It stresses me out, and I get burned out from doing too much. As great as a lot of the activities this month sound, you can’t do them all and shouldn’t try. Only commit to the big ones, and let the rest go.
Remember to practice self-care
This goes along with overdoing it. When we over do it, we forget to take care of ourselves. Self-care is more than just a bubble bath or meditation. Sometimes, it is remembering to eat regularly or stay hydrated. Maybe it is telling yourself to go to bed so that you get enough sleep. Maybe it is curling up with a good book. Just remember to take care of yourself so you don’t get run down or sick. Sometimes, it is just saying screw it and staying in to ignore all the holiday mess going on around you. Take care of you!
Keep the Toxic People Away
This sounds obvious, but it really isn’t. This time of year, many of us feel the need to spread holiday cheer and let people back into our lives, even if it is briefly, in the spirit of the holidays. DON’T.DO.IT. If your family treats you poorly, that is on them, not you. Don’t seek them out, and don’t feel obligated to spend time with them. The same goes with friendships that have become toxic or exes. Just say no!!! I already had a few moments of weakness already with this one. I struggle so much with it and end up in tears over it. However, I also know that I have so many other wonderful people in my life, and they make up for those that have taken advantage of me over the years.
To stay flexible in things this time of year will help ensure that you have a stress-free holiday season. Things happen. People get sick. The dog throws up on your new pumps. The turkey catches fire. No matter how much we plan, life has a way of putting a wrench in it sometimes. Sometimes, you just gotta laugh. Sometimes, you just gotta let it go and keep going. If you are determined to go out and people this holiday season, then you have to maintain flexibility!
I hope you found these tips helpful. Which ones would you add to the list? If you are going through a rough time right now, remember you are not alone. Also remember to take care of yourself this time of year and do what makes you happiest!