Self Care

That time I got Fat-Shamed at my favorite place to buy produce

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There is this cute little Mennonite store I like to buy produce near where we live. I go there because I love to shop local and support local business owners. I can also find dry goods and get good deals on produce, which is great because we go through a lot of fruits and veggies in this house.
Anyways, the other week I decided to go there on a Saturday with my kids in tow to get some apples and a few other things. I have never been there on a weekend and have never seen the place so packed. The only space left to park was partially taken up by another vehicle. I saw the driver was still in the car, so I rolled down my window to ask if he could straighten his vehicle so I could park too.
Apparently the guy must have anticipated that I was going to ask him to straighten his car. He was double parked for goodness sake in a full parking lot! As soon as I rolled down the window to ask, he started yelling at me. He was yelling, “You better get your ice cream you fat f*ck! Go get your ice cream, you fat f*ck.” Over and over, he kept yelling that. Mind you, I had two kids in the car. I wasn’t being nasty when I tried asking him to move. I was taken aback and ended up yelling at him back. Maybe he thought I would be humiliated enough to drive away so he could stay double parked. I don’t know. I do know this though…
…He couldn’t possibly know what size I was. I was in an SUV and all he could really tell is that I have big boobs. Whooptie doo. He just thought he could hurt me if he called me fat. All it proved to me and my kids was that he was a big jerk that can’t park. My kids thought he was ridiculous and immature.

Also, I didn’t even know the place served ice cream until that day, and I have been going there for small groceries for a few years. Of course, now that I knew that, I just had to get ice cream. Man, was it good!

I also know that he doesn’t define how I see me. Do you know who defines how I see me: me.

I don’t remember what he looks like because his looks were so unimportant to me. However, I do remember his ugly attitude. I have dealt with ugly attitudes like that in the past. In the past, I may have hid afterwards and felt shame, but now, I just don’t. I am beautiful for who I am. Random strangers with ugly hearts cannot dictate what I am.
I think what made me sad about the whole thing is that being called fat could possibly be the worst thing he could think of. There are many things worse than being fat.  However, people like that seldom change. They will almost always carry an ugly heart with them. I would much rather be fat than have an ugly heart.



  1. Jennifer Gaffney
    June 11, 2015 at 1:03 pm

    What is wrong with people?? Seriously he has such hate and issues in his life to take it out on you because you want to park, bet it made him feel like a big boy! I would have used that sidewalk chalk and wrote “Jerk Parking” but then you never know what he would do to your car. Good for you girl for getting ice cream, Id say that called for it.

    • prissymissy
      June 11, 2015 at 11:29 pm

      I really don’t understand the rudeness in people nowadays. I think it was a good teaching moment for my kids though. Granted, I may have let loose a few curse words, but I didn’t let him get to me.

  2. Noelle (@singerinkitchen)
    June 11, 2015 at 3:30 pm

    WOW that is horrible and not even called for. That person will definitely be judged for his behavior. Ugly insides for sure!

    • prissymissy
      June 11, 2015 at 11:29 pm


  3. Dana Rodriguez
    April 29, 2020 at 2:30 pm

    WOW! What jackA! People never cease to amaze me how stupid and rude they are!

    • Prissy Missy Doll
      April 30, 2020 at 4:49 pm

      On the upside, I did learn they had ice cream that day. I ate ice cream every time I visited after that until I moved!

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